WIN Win win

Submitted by ub on Wed, 03/30/2022 - 16:31

The old Line about how you play the game went out the window with the new win at all costs attitude. That expression “it’s not whether you win or lose, it’s how you play the game” has now been updated.

Folks now say that winning is really what matters because we achieve something important. But also for a much bigger reason… It drives growth. for anyone creating or designing new products and services.

This is a new Republican mindset is slowly destroying American democracy. A virus of the body and our minds that was initially ignored. an attacked US Capitol, the border crisis, mounting shootings without legislation, an increase in drug overdoses without limitations, and increased harassment for being different... etc.

Here are some ways to succeed during a discussion? The single most important thing we need to learn is to listen…

Then try to see things their way and never ever get personal.

Listen carefully. Many people are so focused on what they are going to say that they ignore their opponent and assume his arguments. It is better to listen carefully. You will observe weaknesses and flaws in his position and sometimes you will hear something new and informative!

Stay calm. Even if you get passionate about your point you must stay cool and in command of your emotions. If you lose your temper – you lose.

Use facts as evidence for your position. Facts are hard to refute so gather some pertinent data before the argument starts. Surveys, statistics, quotes from relevant people, and results are useful arguments to deploy in support of your case.

Ask questions. If you can ask the right questions you can stay in control of the discussion and make your opponent scramble for answers. You can ask questions that challenge his point, ‘What evidence do you have for that claim?’ You can ask hypothetical questions that extrapolate a trend and give your opponent difficulty, ‘What would happen if every nation did that?’ Another useful type of question is one that calmly provokes your foe, ‘What is about this that makes you so angry?’

Appeal to logic and higher values. As well as logic you can use a little emotion by appealing to worthy motives that are hard to disagree with, ‘Shouldn’t we all be working to make the world better and safer for our children?’ Show how one idea follows another. Build your case and use logic to undermine your opponent.

Be prepared to concede a good point. Don’t argue every point for the sake of it. If your adversary makes a valid point then agree but outweigh it with a different argument. This makes you look reasonable. ‘I agree with you that prison does not reform prisoners. That is generally true but prison still acts effectively as a deterrent and a punishment.’

Study your opponent. Know their strengths, weaknesses, beliefs, and values. You can appeal to their higher values. You can exploit their weaknesses by turning their arguments back on them.

Look for a win-win. Be open-minded to a compromise position that accommodates your main points and some of your opponent’s. You cannot both win in a boxing match but you can both win in a negotiation.

Full Socratic Dialogue Written By Plato